In about 2 months, another batch of babies will enter kindergarten with small steps.
Mothers who have broken their hearts are inevitably worried:
What if the child doesn’t know how to eat?
What should the child do if they wet their pants?
What to do if the child doesn’t sleep well?
Instead of worrying again then, it’s better to start preparing now. By cultivating these six abilities in advance, children will be able to adapt to kindergarten life faster and better. (Follow the WeChat subscription account: Duo Mama’s Parent-child Time to chat about parent-child parenting)
1. Developing children’s ability to take care of themselves in daily life
Many mothers believe that crying when their children enter the kindergarten is definitely because they are homesick. In fact, homesickness is only one small factor, and more children experience great frustration because they cannot eat on their own, cannot go to the bathroom on their own, cannot dress and wear shoes on their own
In an unfamiliar environment, if children do not even have basic self-care abilities, their desire to escape will become increasingly intense.
Therefore, before children enter kindergarten, mothers need to start cultivating their children’s self-care abilities.
For example, let the baby learn to eat and drink on their own, take off clothes, go to the bathroom, wash their hands, etc.
Don’t think it’s cruel to do this, then you will know how proud it is to cultivate an independent child.
2. Adjust your child’s schedule early
The daily schedule of kindergarten may differ from children’s usual habits, and many mothers have reported that:
When someone else takes a nap, the child is making noise, but when the child is sleepy during class, their mood is very bad, and they are not mentally active. They are also particularly irritable, or they just cry
To avoid such a situation, it is advisable to understand the schedule of the kindergarten in advance, so that children can adapt to the rhythm of the kindergarten in advance and smoothly adapt to kindergarten life.
3. Developing children’s social skills
Many children arrive at kindergarten and can quickly play with teachers and children, while some children are unable to integrate into such collective life. So, it is also very important to cultivate children’s social skills in advance.
For example, creating more opportunities for children to interact with children of the same age, taking them for walks in garden parks, and meeting peers of the same age; Or take your child to play with friends who have children on weekends to overcome their “social sensitivity” and stimulate their social interest.
In addition, mothers can consciously guide their children to play cooperative games with other children, such as hide and seek, ball rolling, and row sitting. Through games, children can learn to communicate and interact with peers of the same age.
4. Teach children to solve conflicts on their own
It is inevitable for children to have conflicts with other children in kindergarten, such as crying due to being touched, or having conflicts due to being robbed of toys or other children’s toys.
This requires mothers to teach their children how to resolve conflicts in advance.
Taking the case of robbing toys as an example, robbing toys is a small war between children, but it also belongs to “diplomacy” and can exercise children’s ability to handle interpersonal relationships.
If a child’s toy is robbed, encourage them to express themselves by bringing the child to the other person and encouraging them to express, “I took this toy first, I haven’t finished playing it yet, you can’t take it casually
Gradually, children will learn to express and negotiate, and when faced with the same situation, they will use their own efforts to solve problems.
By analogy, we also need to teach children how to express polite expressions such as “sorry” and “thank you”, which can help them avoid unnecessary conflicts and have a more enjoyable time with new friends.
5. Let children learn to express their needs
Even if children have mastered simple life and social skills, they may still encounter various unexpected situations when living in a brand new environment. For example, accidentally wetting your pants, getting into trouble with friends, or even feeling unwell.
Tell children that if they encounter problems they cannot solve, they should seek help from the teacher in a timely manner and express their needs, which can alleviate their anxiety.
6. Cultivate children’s awareness of rules
Kindergarten is a place where rules are taught, and children with a sense of rules will naturally adapt better.
And those children without rules, let alone other children, even the teacher will be a bit afraid of them.
So how can we cultivate children’s awareness of rules?
Firstly, the simplest and most effective approach is to use “can” and “cannot” to let children know what can and cannot be done.
Since it is an “impossible” thing, such as touching sockets, climbing tables and chairs, littering toys and clothes, parents should adhere to the principle of no compromise, strictly abide by the bottom line of the rules, and let children know that some things must be followed no matter what.
Furthermore, the form of rule awareness requires parents to repeatedly remind them. (Follow the WeChat subscription account: Duo Mama’s Parent-child Time to chat about parent-child parenting)
Don’t think that just telling a child once ‘this is not right’ will keep it in mind. If you point out a child’s mistake for the first time and then turn a blind eye to it, the child will surely feel puzzled: am I doing it right or wrong? Then, in order to solve this mystery, the child will try a few more times.
Finally, parents should lead by example.
For example, if we want our children to learn the rule of ‘focus on eating’, we adults need to avoid watching TV or playing with our phones while eating. Many times, setting an example is often more persuasive than following instructions (which is actually nagging).
Rule consciousness is the best love that parents give their children. Allowing children to develop a sense of rules in advance can help them better integrate into collective life.