As children grow up day by day, they need to understand the rules of the world around them, what others expect of them, how they get along with others, how far they can do something, what will happen if they overdo it, and how to measure their growing skills and abilities.
Rules play a very important role in the process of children’s growth. A child who has established rules is not only “obedient”, “obedient” and “easy to adjust”. More importantly, a life that abides by rules ensures that children grow up in order, allows them to judge right and wrong, and spontaneously establishes a good order and harmonious atmosphere.
One year old
Features: curious, active and energetic. At this time, the challenge and major task they are facing is to explore the world around them.
Typical behavior: they begin to recognize language and understand the context of words in a sentence; they don’t know what the external environment is like, for example, they don’t know that a glass vase will break when it falls on the ground; once they want it, they have to get it immediately, and it’s too difficult for their children to wait. They don’t have the ability to control behavior and emotions.
What to do:
Reasonably adjust their expectations and requirements for children. You can show your child which behaviors are right, but don’t insist on it. The tone and facial expression of an adult’s voice is the best way to let children understand the instruction. The attitude is firm, but the reaction should not be too strong.
The focus of management should be on prevention. Ensure that all the facilities in the home are safe for the children, and put away the things that are easy to break.
You can stop crying by comforting and diverting your child’s attention.
Two year old
Characteristics: their emotions are occupied by the huge fluctuations and ups and downs of their own emotions. The challenge and major task they face is to understand their feelings and emotions.
Typical behavior: constantly trying to the outside world, trying to know what other people’s reaction is; still unable to correctly understand and convey their strong emotions, sometimes their emotions are even highly inflated and uncontrollable; they find that not everything they want can be obtained, so they often lose their temper and cry.
What to do:
Minimize the intensity of fighting your child. Make it clear to your child what you expect instead of yelling at them. Don’t overestimate your child’s ability, just give him some simple choices. If necessary, give him some material stimulation to cooperate with his parents instead of confrontation. Be aware that the main “job” for children of this age is to keep testing you.
Help the child control his emotions. If he hits someone, teach him to express his anger in words, and explain to the child, “if we don’t hit someone, it will hurt others.”
Be careful with your child’s tantrums. Sometimes you can deal with it coldly, ignore his crying and losing his temper, and even less compromise. But you must stay near the child until the child stops crying, and then you can reason with him. Do not advocate punishment of children, children can not be left alone in the room to repent, but can bring the crying child to a quiet place to make him slowly calm down.