One study divided children into five types according to their social status: popular children, rejected children, contradictory children, neglected children, and general children, and collectively referred to “rejected children” and “neglected children” as “unwelcome children”.

Compared with other babies, these “unpopular children” have more deviant behaviors in adulthood: “rejected” babies tend to develop antisocial personality, while “neglected” babies tend to develop neurotic personality. This study gives us such an inspiration: parents should not treat children’s communication problems as idle, and they must intervene as early as possible. Parents should adopt appropriate and effective educational strategies to help children overcome communication barriers and make them popular.

Next, let’s take a look at the five types of children who are not popular in kindergartens. What should you do if your baby experiences this situation?

1. Mysterious Lone Ranger

Sometimes the teacher said that when other children were playing the game of eagle catching chicks, the baby didn’t like to participate, but just liked to push bricks by the wall alone. Ungregarious babies are easy to be ignored by other children, but they do not have any character defects. Ungregarious babies may just not find “like-minded” people in this small circle, or do not like their way of playing games.

Each child has different personality characteristics. Some children like to be quiet and some children are active. Parents try to start from their children’s personality and interests to help them find suitable partners.

Although it is said that gregarious babies have stronger interpersonal skills, parents cannot require children and all children to become good friends. Children have their own preferences and choices in friend communication. Parents should not force children to be gregarious. Although your baby likes to play alone, which is strange and difficult to approach, as long as the baby is healthy and happy, parents should let the child do what he likes according to his heart.

Of course, according to the baby’s interests, the mother may as well sign up for an interest class to let the baby have more opportunities to work with people with common interests. Even if he is still not comfortable in a certain group, the child can still gain friendship and happiness if he can make one or two regular partners.

2. Little overlord in the garden

Some children like to play with others, but as long as they believe that the toy is their own, they will never touch it, let alone share it with others. If children develop selfish and domineering behavior habits, other children will not like to play with them!

Sharing is actually the basis for building friendship. 0-3 years old is a critical period for the development of children’s sharing ability. Parents should seize this period and guide them in daily life. For example, parents can “borrow” their baby’s toys for 10 minutes and then return them to him. After borrowing it back and forth for several times, the ownership of the things that the baby has temporarily lost is still his own, and the things that are taken away will come back after all, so the baby has a sense of security of property rights.

Parents can also often invite some children who are familiar with the baby to bring their toys to play together at home. Mother suggested that they exchange toys to let the baby know that “if you lend your toys to other children, you can also play with other children’s toys”. After the game, the mother should ensure that the children’s toys can be returned to their own hands after sharing. With a happy and safe sharing experience, the baby can gradually experience the joy of sharing.

3. A self respecting loser

Some babies are very competitive, even when playing games. If he loses in the group game, he will be angry and say not to play. The baby’s “inability to lose” will make other children feel very boring, and they won’t play games with him over time.

The little emperor has never lost games with his parents at home. The children’s families have always been accommodating to their children, which makes them a little egocentric. The children are spoiled and can’t tolerate their own failure. The mentality of being exclusive to me makes the children less tolerant of frustration.

In addition, parents usually pay attention not to “brag” when praising their children. It is better to be objective and let the children have a good self-awareness rather than feel that they are the best in the world. Some small failures may be an unbearable blow to a child with high self-esteem, because he can no longer bear the word “failure” in his mind. Therefore, it is an art for parents to evaluate the child’s behavior!

4. The teacher’s little follower

Some babies are very clingy. They often stick to their parents at home. In kindergarten, they can only find a sense of security in their teachers. Therefore, they stick to their teachers all the time like little followers. They also often act coquetry, which is very unpleasant for other children.

Teachers can be said to be children’s “common property”, so everyone wants to get parental care and care from teachers. Therefore, if anyone monopolizes teachers’ love, it will inevitably make other children “look sideways”. Your baby loves to stick to others, in the final analysis, because the baby can only find this special sense of security in adults.

Perhaps it is the parents who take care of their children excessively, which makes them feel strongly dependent; Perhaps it is because the baby lacks confidence. They can only feel comfortable around adults. It is suggested that parents should give their children more opportunities to play by themselves while giving them enough care and security. In kindergartens, teachers should encourage children to participate in collective games, so that children can enjoy the happiness in group activities, and shift the focus of children’s attention to children, so that parents and teachers can easily “get away”.

5. A flamboyant princess

Some babies always like to show off the new toy car that their father bought for them, or wear the new clothes that their mother bought for them in front of other children. The world of adults is full of money worship and material taste, so children are gradually affected by material consciousness and become fond of “showing off wealth”. Children naturally do not like to be good friends with such people!

Parents should cultivate their children’s correct material consciousness. While setting an example, parents should talk with their children more, enter their inner world and understand their thoughts. At the same time, parents should not allow their children to spend money freely and respond to material needs to avoid making their children too “rich”.

In daily life, our children often encounter some interpersonal problems. They want to win friendship and hope others like them. But in real life, they find that they don’t know how to win friendship. In real school life, many class cadre elections are decided by voting, so the quality of interpersonal relationships will seriously affect children’s self-confidence.


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