“Mom, how did the leaves fall down?”
“Mom, where’s the sun?”
“Mother, why don’t the car run in the tree?”
When children have many questions, they are happy at first and answer patiently, which means that they will think.
Over the years, all kinds of strange and repetitive problems have begun to be chaotic and indifferent.
Faced with the 100,000 “curious babies”, why, every parent would be anxious to find rescuers, how to deal with it better?
Brain hole is so big
What are you asking?
Before that, let’s take a moment to find out what children love to ask.
Children aged 2-3 are more likely to ask such questions:
“Where is the car going?”
“Where does the little ant climb?”
Children at this stage are concerned with the object, how it will develop and how it will change. Children often associate their lives with other objects.
For example, when telling stories, children around 2 years old pay more attention to what kittens eat? Where to sleep? Who to play with? This is actually a child’s question from the association of “eating, sleeping, playing”.
For children over 3 years of age, ask more questions like this:
“Why are car wheels round?”
“Why can’t you see stars in the daytime?”
When children are over 3 years old, they begin to pay attention to the logic and causality of things. The difficulty of the problem has increased, which is actually the further development of children’s thinking ability and association ability.
When he sees an interesting and incomprehensible phenomenon, he searches for similar phenomena in his head, compares, analyses and asks questions. For example, when a child sees that the bow of a boat is pointed, he may think of a car that is also a vehicle. Why is the head not pointed?
Of course, a child’s brain hole may be infinite. How to satisfy his curious little universe?
Find the answer together
Every day, a child will have many questions to ask. When he says a question that he has never asked before, you should take it seriously, because maybe he has found something new and can’t wait to explore.
At this time, no matter how busy you are, give the child some time to tell him the answer, or help him find the answer, so that he can solve the doubts in happiness.
My friend said that once her daughter suddenly came to her and asked her, “Mom, why do ants line up?”
It turned out that my daughter saw a raised ant hill in the garden, and many ants came in and out of the hole. It was very interesting, so the problem arose.
Mother answered: Last time we went to the spring outing, did the tour guide ask everyone to follow, or what would happen?
The daughter cried out, “You can’t find the way. If you don’t follow the one in front, you can’t find the way.” Originally, ants are also afraid of getting lost.
Don’t rush to give a direct answer, guide the child, step by step to find the answer.
Answer in words your child understands
Sometimes a child asks you the same question over and over again. Don’t think he did it intentionally. It’s very likely that he really doesn’t remember the answer.
In this case, the best thing to do is to answer again, but don’t repeat the last answer. Let’s put it another way. Tell him in childish/funny/life-like language to impress him more deeply with the answers so that he can remember them. Then he won’t ask again next time.
For example, the child asked, “Where has the sun gone?”
Simple answer: The sun goes down and goes home.
Answer: Because Sun Gong-Gong worked all day and was very tired, he needed to go home and sleep.
Integrate into the child’s world, explain with his ability to be more familiar with the situation, and deepen his memory. Believing in the effect is better than repeating scientific statements countless times!
Some questions need not be answered.
Children just want attention.
Sometimes children keep asking questions in order to get attention.
In the morning, when parents go to work, the children refuse, so the problem arises.
“Why does Mom go to work?”
“Why didn’t Dad play with me?”
If you answer seriously, for example, to make money to buy things, you will find it useless. The child will then ask:
“Why do you make money?”
“Is it okay not to buy anything?”
The endless questioning only shows the child’s anxiety at the moment. How to answer to satisfy the baby? You can help him say what he wants to say, “The baby doesn’t want her to go to work, does she? The mother is not at home, the baby will miss her, and the mother has been thinking about her baby.”
Curiosity needs to be nurtured and asking questions is a good thing. For 100 reasons a day for children, do not think about which question did not answer well, mother’s energy is limited.
When I’m busy, he keeps asking me endlessly, and I’ll let him find out the answer himself, or cut it off and tell him that Mom is busy now, you can play with toys for a while.
So-called scientific parenting, who can practice so thoroughly that every moment and every second can remain perfect?