The baby is three years old. He often loses his temper and sings the opposite tune. He doesn’t want it if he gives it to him. He prefers it if he doesn’t give it to him! I believe many parents will face this problem.

In fact, this is the baby’s performance in the rebellious period. The main performances are as follows——

· get angry for no reason, shout loudly, and often talk about “no, no, no”;

· like to turn the house upside down, and don’t feel like you’ve done something wrong;

· I like to do it myself. If I can’t do it well, I will cry in frustration

▎ what are the reasons for the three-year-old’s rebellion?

Before the baby was two years old, their food, drink, and salad were arranged by adults. After the age of three, they were exposed to more and more things. The baby began to have his own ideas and no longer listened to the arrangements of adults. And most children will start kindergarten after the age of three, which is their first step out of society.

However, the baby’s expression ability and vocabulary are not enough to support their current idea, so they will become extremely anxious, even rebellious, and attract the attention of their parents in some extreme ways, such as saying “no” to their parents.

Psychologists have found that children who say “no” are not really against their parents, but want to attract their parents’ attention in this way.

▎ what are the wrong ways for parents to deal with rebellious children

However, in the face of these changes, many parents do not understand and take the wrong way to educate their children, which will make the baby overwhelmed and hurt.

☑ preaching

For moderate parents, preaching is their preferred method. However, parents do not know the reason for their children’s trouble, and preaching is useless. The baby will only be more disgusted and rebellious.

☑ intimidation

Some anxious parents will use extreme methods of intimidation and beating and scolding to their children for such behavior that they persist in teaching. They just ask the baby to be quiet and not make trouble. However, doing so will make the baby better, but it will harm his young heart. He didn’t know what he had done wrong. If children have been in such an education, it is very detrimental to their growth.

☑ use of force

If preaching and intimidation are not effective, perhaps at this time, the bear child will be beaten. The harder the parents fight, the louder the baby cries. In this vicious circle, sincerity is not the way. However, the harm of doing so should not be ignored. Children who are often punished will think that their parents do not love them, so they have low self-esteem and cowardice. In addition, some children, influenced by their parents, will be used to solving problems by force when they grow up.

▎ what methods can be used to enable children to successfully pass the rebellious period?

So, parents, we should know that when our children reach the age of three, which is the first rebellious period, we should accept their behavior. In addition, scientific education methods are adopted.

The ☑ Give children different choices

Children like to play the devil’s advocate. When they say to adults that they don’t want to be with them, at this time, parents should appropriately give the baby different choices.

For example, “would you like fruit or cookies?” “Watching TV or playing games?” “Go to the park or go to the movies?” In this way, giving children half the right to ask questions can usually win their cooperation.

The ☑ Let children experience natural consequences

When a three-year-old child is developing his brain, he is very creative and often has some wild ideas. At this time, you can ask the child’s opinions. If you think it is feasible, encourage him to do it, or even complete it with him.

The ☑ Communicate in words that children understand

The vocabulary of three-year-old children is still relatively small, and many do not know how to express. Parents usually use the tone of a child to communicate with their children, or through some vivid metaphors, so that children can easily accept and communicate better. The


Parents are the first tutors of children, and many behaviors are learned from parents. If parents often refuse their children with simple and rude words or actions, the children will learn and become grumpy.

Therefore, when we face the rebellious period of children, we should first restrain our temper, not be impatient, and use simple and rough ways to respond to the children. Although this can immediately calm the children down, the children are lonely and have no sense of security. The correct way should be to give more care and love, and then make adjustments and changes through learning. Finally, it can not only help children get out of the extraordinary period smoothly, but also realize their own growth and progress.


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