Almost every parent has a time to scold their children. Although we also said to ourselves in the bottom of our hearts, to be a gentle parent, we should not scold our children at will. But many times, the children are really disobedient, and it’s hard to resist the temper when it comes up!
However, no matter how many mistakes the child has made, the following time points should not be blamed on the child:
1. When you first get up
A day’s plan is in the morning! After a night’s rest, children and adults have been “full of electricity” and full of energy to meet the new day. If you scold the children at this time, the “power” of adults and children will suddenly be halved, and the mood will be very bad at the end of the day.
Many parents spend little time with their children and only sit together when they eat. Abhorrently, they will grasp this time point and scold the children’s various faults. In fact, scolding a child at meals can affect his appetite and cause indigestion. In the long run, it may cause anorexia, let alone appetite, which will affect children’s physical development.
3. Before going to bed
If you scold a child before going to bed, it will have a great impact on the sleep quality of the child. At this time, scolding the child, the child will go to bed with frustration, or sleepless at night, or nightmares, affecting the child’s sleep and health.
4. When sick
When a child is sick, it is a time when his physical function and psychology are very sensitive. At this time, more than ever, he needs the care of his parents. If we still scold our children in spite of their sickness and weakness, it will not only be harmful to the recovery of their illness, but also leave a shadow of “parents do not care enough about themselves”.
5. When you are happy
When a child is happy, the physiological function of the whole body will be in an active state. If the child is scolded at this time, the child’s mood will drop from a high state to a low point in an instant. Not only is it harmful to children’s health, but it also has a certain impact on their psychology – whenever they are about to be happy, they will think of the emotional gap before, and then it is difficult to be happy again.
6. When Knowing Wrong
Most children will realize their mistakes and repent after they have done something wrong. If the child is constantly scolding at this time, the child will probably have a rebellious mentality: why do I know wrong, but also continue to scold? Is my heart of repentance useless? In this way, the child will probably know that the offender, and parents against.
7. When you are depressed
When children are depressed, what they need most is parents’understanding and love. If at this time, regardless of the child’s emotional state, just “heartily” scolding the child, children will not feel the parents’care, and then more melancholy mood.
8. In public
Children also need dignity. If they scold their children in public or tell them jokes about their affairs, their self-esteem will be greatly hurt. If the child does something wrong at this time, he should take the child to a quiet place and communicate next step.
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