Many novice parents have heard of “horrible age 2,” because many lovely sweethearts and angels to the age of 2, it seems that all of a sudden turned into a little devil who likes to sing the opposite tune: tantrums, how to coax wrong, many parents can not help but be very mad. What’s going on? How do we deal with these angry children?
Know the 2 year old baby
In fact, we say that 2-year-old babies are angry. This 2-year-old is not exactly a 24-month-old, but a general term for 18 to 30-month-old babies. Some “hot-tempered” babies may even be 3-year-old or little devils. What causes the baby to become like this?
Temper tantrum is essentially a normal emotional reaction of the baby, from a psychological point of view, the baby temper is often a kind of psychological needs of the external performance. Babies about 2 years old have grown up physically and psychologically. They are beginning to come into contact with the wider world, more people and more things.
But the way they explore the world is a little crazy for parents. For example, a baby pushes down a glass vase just because he doesn’t know it will break; a mother always says to wear shoes first, but the baby wants to know, what happens if I don’t wear shoes? What’s worse, babies can’t be as rational as adults at this time, but react to their own interests and emotions. Frustrated or unhappy, babies naturally lose their temper.
Babies about 2 years old are actually “adults” with their own exploration needs and emotional expressions. Parents need to really treat babies as human beings, who are like adults, not just babies who eat and sleep. Parents need to pay attention to the baby’s psychological development and realize that the baby’s tantrums are normal emotional expression. In this way, we can calm down and guide correctly.
How to deal with a child who is angry?
Knowing a 2-year-old baby, parents need to learn to adjust their cognition, pay attention to the baby’s emotional changes, find the cause of anger can be calmly coped with.
One is to ask not to be too high. Many parents get angry when they see a baby losing his temper, largely because of their knowledge of the baby or because the baby who only knows how to eat and sleep is totally dependent on himself. The baby is now growing up and has its own needs and emotions. Parents are clearly aware of this, and can not ask the baby to be completely obedient, reasonable adjustment of their own baby’s requirements and expectations.
Parents can demonstrate themselves, asking children to do the first thing they need to do. Parents need to let the baby know what is right behavior, use a gentle tone and expression to tell the baby. However, the baby has not yet their own emotional control ability, parents asked to be clear, but can not insist that the baby must do, especially not yell at the baby. How can parents who are too demanding to control their emotions have a baby who can control his emotions?
The two is to learn to lead by empathy. Baby tantrums are often expressions of unmet needs, and parents should calmly communicate with the baby. For example, teach your child to express his or her needs and feelings in words, and tell parents what he or she wants to do or is unhappy. Parents should respond positively and express their understanding and thoughts to the baby. If the baby’s temper behavior is more intense, such as throwing things or even beating people, parents should quickly control this behavior, and the baby reasoning, that this will hurt others, break things. It is wrong to let the baby know that this behavior is wrong, and there will be bad consequences.
When a 2-year-old baby loses his temper and cries, parents should reassure him in time and use other things to quickly divert his attention. In this way, the baby will soon be quiet. For children’s “bad behavior”, parents should pay attention to the expression and tone. Because babies in this period have limited ability to understand language, but they have been able to “watch the words and look at the colors”. Parents can look at the baby seriously and tell the baby to do something wrong with a calm and low intonation.