Maybe you will say that a child is his own. I can feed and clothe him, love him and educate him. There is no bottom line. This is absolutely wrong.
Every child is an individual.
No matter how old the child is, it should be treated as an independent person. Therefore, other children are not accessories of their parents. They will form independent personality and have their own bottom line.
The poet Gibran wrote a little poem: your children are not your children / they are the children of the fire of life / they come to the world through you / they are not your incarnation / they live with you all day long / but they do not belong to you. (excerpt from the poem “your children” by Gibran, 19th century writer of Lebanon)
Children will eventually grow up, leave their parents to face the world alone, so from now on, respect the children, do not touch the bottom line of children, especially these three things.
1. Spy on children’s secrets, stop
When a child grows up, especially in adolescence, and has an independent space, he may have his own mobile phone and keep a diary to record his mood. As a parent, don’t take advantage of the child’s inattention to look at the child’s things, such as peeking at the child’s diary, reading the child’s mobile phone
These practices will only make children disgusted, even noisy or aggressive behavior, the reason is simple – not enough respect!
The way to get to know a child is not to pry into secrets.
Parents can take the initiative to communicate with their children and make themselves reliable friends. In this way, when necessary, children will take the initiative to tell their parents their secrets. In the face of children’s troubles, don’t attack or criticize them. Try to find ways with them.
Of course, if the child doesn’t want to tell his parents about it, don’t force him. It’s his privacy. If you are really worried, you can talk with your child, ask more about your child’s abnormal performance, and rule out some radical ideas.
2. Stop scolding children in different situations
Even when children are very young, they can sense the eyes and emotions of people around them. He would feel ashamed to scold a child directly in front of his relatives and friends. If it is in school, parents in front of the teachers and students in the face of scolding, is to let the children in front of the students can not lift their head.
Teach children to reason with him can be carried out afterwards, respect children, then don’t scold in public, what can’t go home to say!
3. Publicize children’s embarrassment, stop
Until I became a mother myself, my mother would still enjoy talking about all kinds of embarrassing things when I was a child in front of relatives and friends. So every time I have a party with several mothers, I talk about children. Even if the child is not around, I don’t talk about his embarrassment. If he is around, I can’t say anything. Children also want to face well, always say embarrassing things, the child is either ashamed or embarrassed, or will have a bad temper with you. To respect him is to consider his feelings.
Have you ever done these three things? Do you think about it!