Growing up after 80 boys, are completing the role change from man to husband and father. Some have already become fathers, some are preparing to marry and have children, and some comrades who have not yet succeeded in the revolution and who have not been stripped are also actively working hard. Times are changing, strict family education is no longer the only criterion to measure a good father. You can’t see where Dad is going. Guo Tao’s severe criticism of stones arouses netizens. Zhang Liang, who plays with him everyday, is popular.
How to make a good father who can play with his children?
1. Don’t be stingy about your love for your baby
Safe attachment is the foundation of baby’s future interpersonal development. Only when a baby experiences all the positive emotions about love when he is young can he feel safe inside and be able to communicate with others equally. So, don’t be stingy with your love. Get closer to your baby and let him fully appreciate the intimacy of love in his close contact with his father.
2. Positive Response to Babies
Before the baby can speak, he can only communicate with you in his own way. Maybe it’s a little voice, an action or a facial expression, a stare or an escape, but that’s what the baby is suggesting to you.
Don’t be stingy with your response, you will find that your smile can make the anxious baby quiet gradually, he will cry less, quieter at night. This is because the baby is quiet by appeasing or feeding, when his brain’s anxiety response system automatically shuts down. But be careful: you can’t meet all his requirements. You just keep a positive response to the baby’s hints and let him know that you understand his requirements.
3. Talk to your baby as much as possible
All the conversations you have with your baby will lay a solid foundation for your baby’s future learning. When babies hear more and more words, the function of language processing in the brain develops. Talk, read or sing to your baby as much as possible. Maybe at first you just read him a simple picture book, not try to teach him. As the baby grows older, he can be encouraged to participate by reading stories – repeating intonations and words, and slowly, he can do as you do.
4. Helping Babies to Establish Order
For babies, the establishment of order is very important. Babies learn in repetition, which is also an important prerequisite for their sense of security. Keep in mind that it’s important to have regular diaper change and bath time every day. At the same time, we should repeat or even fix some activities that can make our baby feel happy, such as telling stories or singing, listening to children’s songs before going to bed, and eating biscuits and candy after going home.
5. Encouraging Baby Safety Exploration
For a baby, you are his whole world, to a great extent, you determine his attitude towards the world, and your interaction with him basically determines the way he learns. Therefore, when the baby is trying to explore or play games, you should keep an attitude of acceptance, especially when he is frustrated and needs encouragement from you. Only in this way can the baby be fearless of difficulties and future.
6. Watching TV with your baby selectively
Studies have shown that babies learn well because their father restricts the time and content of watching TV. Never let TV be your baby’s sister. Even if you watch TV, your baby will watch it with you. You can use your way to explain the content of TV and even discuss it with him, so that watching TV can also become a learning experience.
7. Taking Rules as an Opportunity for Learning
Don’t expect your baby to always do what you say. He’s usually impulsive and often noisy because he can’t control his emotions when he’s depressed and angry. It takes time for babies to learn self-control. Never beat or shake your baby vigorously. Studies have shown that this can have a permanent negative effect on your baby, making him feel afraid, humiliated or angry. This interaction can only teach him to resist in the same violent way.
When your baby makes you unhappy, give yourself a little time, count to 10, calm yourself down, or talk to a friend to ease your mood. When you react too strongly or ask too harshly, first say sorry to your baby, which will not only make up for the loss, but also make your baby feel more love and support.
8. Every baby is unique
Every baby has its own temperament and growth speed, each baby is unique. Give your baby unique encouragement, you will see that the baby really can do well. Generally speaking, parents who are sensitive to their babies’reactions will help their babies build up a positive self-esteem.
9. Guarantee the quality of baby care
Studies have shown that high-quality infant care and early education can promote future learning and social skills, which is absolutely up to you. If the baby is taken care of by a nanny or relatives or friends, you need to personally observe how the caregiver interacts with the baby, whether it really cares about the baby, and also provide space for the development of the baby, whether the baby’s surroundings are clean and safe, and so on.
10. Take care of yourself
Raising babies is the most challenging job, especially when you feel tired, impatient, frustrated or frustrated, it is even harder to meet your baby’s needs. Therefore, taking care of yourself is better for your baby.
Be a playful father
1. Share Floor Time: Play games with your baby in his way, not yours.
2. Learn to snuggle: Especially when the baby is depressed or making progress, snuggle with him.
3. When playing competitive games with your baby, it’s best to let him win at the beginning and then gradually return to normal, which helps to cultivate your baby’s self-confidence.
4. When the baby laughs, let him continue to laugh. If possible, find out why he laughs, and often make him laugh.
5. Play costume games, let the baby be the director, let him design your role.