I don’t know if you have the same feeling. People who are good at doing housework are more independent in life and can arrange their time in order?
Anyway, all the mothers around me resonated with me and realized the importance of housework in cultivating children’s independence. Many friends from the beginning of pregnancy, on the cruel words, vowed not to spoil the child, not to let the child as “Ma Bao male”, “Ma Bao female”, from childhood to cultivate children to do housework habits!
However, when did you start to let your child learn to do housework? I have seen many examples that you are always waiting for your child to grow up, but when your child is a little older, it becomes very difficult for him to learn to do housework. Sometimes I really question whether laziness is human nature.
Well, of course not. Early education should be carried out as early as possible, so should children learn to do housework. It’s no exaggeration to say that this one and a half year old baby should start to learn to do housework. The later you start to teach your baby to do housework, the less conducive it is for them to form the habit of doing housework.
Because from one and a half to three or four years old, it’s a stage for babies to develop self-care ability. In this period, if parents can guide their children’s ability, their autonomy will improve and help to build a confident personality. At this time, if we fail to establish a good ability of self-care, we will have doubts about our own ability and problems in the development of personality.
1. What housework can one and a half year old children do?
Let one and a half year old children start to do housework, is not to cultivate the rhythm of “child labor”. So don’t be paranoid. The baby can learn to “wash the dishes, mop the floor and cook” these complex chores. They should start with the simplest “Little Instruction”.
One and a half years old, from a simple small task.
Children who are about 9-24 months old begin to receive simple instructions. Since she was one and a half years old, I encouraged her to learn to “finish her little things”. The general training contents are “throw the urine pants into the trash”, “receive this toy here”, “put the milk bottle and auxiliary food bowl in this position after using up”. As long as the parents’ attitude is OK, children generally do not resist such orders. After the “small task” lasts for a period of time, without parents’ nagging, the child will also take the initiative to complete these small instructions.
2. From the age of two and a half, the “small housework” can be more complicated
When dodo was two and a half years old, I began to make her “little housework” more difficult. Upgrade these things from simple “one-step” commands to slightly more complex ones, such as putting your toys on the basket side, and then putting them in the cabinet (of course, the basket should not be too heavy, within the scope of the child’s ability).
At this time, children’s participation in housework is not simply “listening to instructions”, but with a certain degree of active participation. When we are ready to go out, duo will take out her shoes and put them back in place. However, not every time they take the initiative, sometimes they don’t cooperate with each other when they play a small temperament. At this time, as long as they guide patiently, the children will generally cooperate with each other.
3. From the age of three, participate in small household chores
Since the age of three, Duoduo has begun to participate in small family affairs. For example, when adults wash dishes, she will help deliver dishes and chopsticks nearby. In addition, she will help grandma take newspapers, organize her own toy books, and feed small fish at home. Every time the children finish these things, duo dad and the children will have a “high five”, which is the interaction between their father and daughter. At this time, the child seems to have understood that housework is actually a very common thing, and does not need to be encouraged and praised every time.
In daily life, how can we cultivate children’s enthusiasm for doing housework?
1. Play housework with children
When children are young, games are the best means of education. With the help of games, children can improve their interest in housework. For example, use toys, tableware (cups, plates, spoons, pots) to play housework games with children.
“Honey, would you like to fry a dish for mom today? I want to eat tomato and egg.”
After the child completes the “meal”, the mother finishes the “meal” with relish. Through the game to achieve the educational effect.
2. Break down the task and show the child
Children may find it difficult to do housework that they have never been exposed to before, and it is normal for them to shrink back. At this time, the task can be broken down and demonstrated to the children. For example, children don’t know how to wash clothes. They can divide the laundry into seven steps: take the clothes to the washing machine, separate the colored clothes, put the clothes in the washing machine, pour the laundry liquid, turn on the washing machine, take the clothes out, and air the clothes. Let the children participate in the links within their ability range, demonstrate the patience to the children, and encourage the children to participate.
3. Special labor tools for children
In order to improve the enthusiasm of children to participate in domestic work, mothers can buy labor appliances that meet the size of children. For example, small apron, gloves, vegetable basket, dishwasher, etc. can make children pay more attention to housework.
4. “Help” from children
Smart parents know that the best way to encourage their children to do something is to send a “SOS” signal to their children. For example, “Dad will be off work soon, can you help me pick vegetables? So we can prepare meals and wait for dad before he comes back.”. To ask for help from children more often can not only help children acquire more labor skills, but also promote parent-child feelings and foster children’s sense of responsibility in common labor.
5. Housework should not be used as a means of punishing children
Many parents will take housework as the result of punishing their children. For example, if their children do not obey, they will be punished by sweeping the floor. This will deepen children’s aversion to housework. So if you want your child to develop the habit of loving work, don’t punish him easily to do some housework.
[what do mom say]
I don’t know if you will have such a puzzle: is it a bit “abusive” to let children participate in family affairs when they are only one or two years old? I don’t think so at all! Because we don’t want to let children share housework, but we are cultivating her ability. In fact, the amount of housework a child can share is very small, but she has learned a lot.