The post-80s generation, who were once considered children, have now quickly become families and businesses, standing on the threshold of their thirties. They not only have their own rules for dealing with people, but as parents of the new generation, they also have their own nurturing new ideas. Now, let’s take a look at the exciting new characteristics of parents born in the 1980s.
1. The post-80s generation is no longer eager for quick success and instant benefits in parenting.
In terms of educating children, the post-80s generation are rarely as eager for quick success and instant benefits as their parents in the 1950s and 1970s. The previous generation of parents always hoped that their children would become the first, hoping that their children would succeed and exert countless pressures on the post-80s generation. In extreme cases, there have even been incidents where children jumped off buildings in order not to learn the piano, cutting off their handles or not liking to learn.
Nowadays, society has become increasingly diversified, and the post-80s generation is more tolerant towards their children because they are naturally disgusted with these things and will no longer torment them.
2. The post-80s generation understands that loving children is not equivalent to spoiling them
After experiencing their childhood, most post-80s generation understand that excessive indulgence towards their children is actually very dangerous. I’m afraid that when children grow up, they will become overly self centered just like themselves, and the love they understand should also be measured.
The general family composition of the generation born in the 1980s is like a pyramid, with fewer children and more parents, so it is natural to give more love to children. Faced with the love of parents, the care of grandparents is really afraid that their children will not be able to withstand the bombardment of “sugar coated shells”, and in the end, they will still be rebellious and impulsive like themselves.
So the post-80s generation learned that there should be trade-offs in giving love to children, and that appropriately denying children’s achievements can also make them “braver and more frustrated”. When children cry and cry on the street for a toy, they often do not hesitate because of the price, but rather worry about whether the toy is beneficial to the child. In the end, they may choose to buy a toy, but it is not because of the child’s distress, but because they believe it is necessary to buy it. When a child makes a mistake, it’s not just about criticizing them, but about telling them where the mistake is?
3. Give children a certain amount of self space after the 1980s
The generation born in the 1980s is often viewed closely by their parents as they grow up, lacking space for themselves. They used to want to do some of their own things, but their parents kept a close eye on them. So, the post-80s generation understands that children also need some private space, allowing them to have more freedom within their own care. It’s not a bad thing. They give children the right to choose whether to watch cartoons, whether to watch TV or study first, and the right to choose to study their own interest classes. Giving children the right to make their own choices in a free space will make them feel important and responsible.
Children also have their own secrets. During their 80s school years, they were often followed by their parents or looked through their diaries. Nowadays, they are more likely to respect their children’s rights. Only by giving children the same respect can they respect their parents and themselves.