Some time ago, there were many popular articles on the Internet with the theme of “puerperal period”, but it was an epidemic that kept everyone at home and men experienced the “treatment” of puerperal period; as a result, more than one month of staying at home, Chen finally put his father’s crazy topic on the microblog hot search.
Under the epidemic situation, in the face of the “holiday” that grows after waking up every day, men’s fancy ideas of spending time are also displayed in turn; in special times, buying vegetables has become the only time for many men to let off in the near future. More many male netizens call directly: finally know why women will have depression in puerperium!
When it comes to puerperium, even now, many men still think that women ‘s puerperium is a pure good thing to enjoy. They don’t understand and can’t figure out why some people lie in bed all day long, their families are good at eating and drinking, but they will suffer from depression after sitting for a month; during the month, their temper is still very big, and they will get angry or cry if they can’t move. What’s the logic?!
As a country with a tradition of puerperal period since ancient times, women who have had children and have been in confinement cannot be moved by this kind of “ridicule”, let alone have a sense of comfort to be understood. Don’t men think that the reason for puerperal depression is simply that they can’t go out? It’s no wonder that men think of puerperal depression as simple and superficial as Tucson.
What challenges does puerperal period really need to face?
The puerperal period means the completion of the “unloading” task. It just ended the arduous process of October pregnancy and experienced a full-fledged risk of childbirth. Do you think it’s over? No! Puerperium is just the beginning
1. The hormone changes rapidly and the mood fluctuates greatly. This is a big problem to be faced in the puerperal period: after childbirth, the maternal body hormone level changes rapidly, the mood will become sensitive, anxiety and ups and downs, and will often collapse and cry because of a casual word. Some mothers say that there are a thousand reasons to cry every day in puerperium
2. Lack of milk and body pain. Just after delivery, the body of the parturient is very weak, and the spontaneous delivery may be accompanied by side cutting pain and tearing pain, while the cesarean section has wound healing pain. Within one week after delivery, it is basically unable to sit normally; there is also a kind of feeding pain, which only experienced mothers can understand. Oh, there is no pain comparable to tingling is the family “dislike” lack of milk!
3. No matter day or night, I am tired of bringing my baby. Most mothers need to nurse, sleep and change diapers at night. Before recovering from the pain of childbirth, they have to take care of the baby unprepared. Most novice mothers start from learning how to hold the baby, how to feed and how to change diapers. How many fathers can get up every night to help change diapers?
4. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the conflict of parenting concept. The baby’s arrival has changed from a small family with two people in the world to a big family with four to five people, most of which are taken care of by the mother-in-law during the puerperal period. Due to the different living habits and parenting methods, the month child period has become the outbreak period of mother-in-law conflict.
The above are just the main challenges that novice mothers face during the puerperal period, as well as trivial matters such as various kinds of care of the baby’s body, how to vaccinate, how to buy a birth certificate and child care, etc. if the team-mates are not reliable, every matter should be worried by the mother. Ask yourself, and deal with these things for a person who has just experienced a lot of hardships to have a baby Can you calm down? Don’t be naive to think that the puerperal period is to lie down and eat all kinds of tonics every day. For mothers, there are more psychological challenges to bear
Love new mothers, men please do these things!
1. Please focus on your mother. After childbirth, new mothers are very weak and tired, their bodies are also very painful, and their hearts are extremely eager for the company and care of their families, especially their husbands. Don’t just focus on the newborn baby, the baby and other family members look after it. At this time, the mother needs you more, so please be sure to pass on your care and care to new mothers as much as possible.
2. Please learn and master some nursing knowledge in advance. No matter when, learning is a good way to relieve anxiety. In order to take better care of mom, novice dad had better learn some postpartum care and parenting knowledge in advance. Now there are too many ways to learn! Download a reliable app, such as happy mom, and start learning before pregnancy. You can remember the key points of each stage; In this way, you can not only be more considerate to your mother, but also be handy to solve some small problems. Even if they don’t do well enough, the mother will comfort them a lot, because the baby never lacks the mother, and what they need is more effective dads!
3. Please do a good job of communication within the family. It’s very important to build up the communication bridge between mother and grandmother smoothly. Most of the good family relations are due to the ease of husband between wife and mother, the reduction of direct conflicts between the two sides, and the efforts to create a good and harmonious family atmosphere, which are very important for the children’s period and the subsequent relationship. Men must carry the burden!
A novel coronavirus pneumonia will eventually pass through the “moon experience” in Kan, but this “not easy” feeling should be left behind. Don’t think that puerperium is really just like this. As a partner, you can’t replace her child, so please give enough care and love to her during her puerperium, and face this “difficulty” side by side. The difficult way to raise children.