In October of conception, the cargo was finally unloaded. After a long period of abstinence, the couple could finally click happily again.
However, after giving birth to a child, the mother’s body has undergone many subtle changes, and it seems that it is not as simple as imagined to “flip” her husband’s brand as before.
What problems do couples need to pay attention to when they have sex after birth? How to avoid minefields of postpartum sexual life and maintain a high-quality “sex” life? (Pay attention to Wechat Subscription Number: Damo parent-child time, talk about parenting and childcare)
Today, Dauma will talk to you about five things about postpartum sex.
1. No sexual intercourse for 42 days after delivery
In many people’s eyes, puerperium lasts 30 days. If by 30 days, lochia has been exhausted, does it mean that sexual intercourse can be carried out?
No! “Puerperium” is called “puerperium” in medicine and usually lasts for 6-8 weeks (about 42-56 days). Puerperal sexual intercourse, the worst result is to lead to “puerperal infection”.
Puerperal infection: that is, the reproductive tract of puerpera is infected by pathogens, which can cause local or systemic inflammation changes. Severe cases may cause sepsis, toxic shock, or even renal dysfunction, endangering maternal life.
In an era of underdeveloped health care, many women have broken through the ghost of having children, but failed to escape the disease. Until now, “puerperal infection” is still one of the common causes of maternal mortality.
So, for the health of postpartum mothers, it is necessary to bear with urgency.
Moreover, the “42” days mentioned here are not a rigid time point.
Everyone’s physical recovery is different, it’s better to have a postpartum physical examination. The doctor tells him that his body is in good condition and his uterus and vagina are in good condition before he can start sexual intercourse.
Cesarean mothers, on the other hand, need more time to recover. Because caesarean section in addition to uterus, vagina and other parts of the repair, but also need to wait for surgical wound healing.
2. Postpartum vaginal loosening, how to “tighten” back?
Many mothers find that the vagina is not as tight as before after the birth, and they admire the mother of caesarean section in silence.
In fact, medical studies have shown that cesarean section mothers also have looser birth canals. Because in the third trimester of pregnancy, the progesterone in the mother’s body will rise, causing the birth canal to expand, in preparation for the birth of the baby.
What can we do to make it “tight” back?
The most feasible way is to adhere to the “Kegel exercise”, which is the most common and effective way to restore pelvic floor muscles at present, and it is very simple and concealed to operate. In general, it is the action of suffocating urine.
Do it three times a day, about 10 times a day, and keep it for about 5 seconds each time. After several months, the vaginal muscles usually recover better.
Some mothers even reported that after months of persistence, the vagina was tighter than before delivery (which, of course, was related to the individual’s physical condition).
3. Lactation menstruation has not yet recovered. Do you need contraception?
Three important things: contraception, contraception, contraception!
Why does Doma emphasize this point? Because there are two mothers beside Doma who are pregnant accidentally because they do not have contraception during lactation. Real cases are in front of us, and we don’t want you to be so passive, so we should focus on reminding you of this.
Why do you need contraception before menstruation resumes?
In general, most mothers resume menstruation 2-6 months after delivery, and some mothers do not resume menstruation until 1-2 years after delivery (no other underlying diseases, early or late are normal, and related to their physical characteristics).
But menstruation has not yet recovered contraception can be avoided. In many cases, menstruation has not yet recovered, but ovulation may have quietly resumed. Therefore, even if breast-feeding menstruation has not yet recovered, contraception can not be ignored, carelessness may really be “recruited”.
4. Why does it feel a little painful to have sex during lactation?
Some mothers reported that during postpartum sexual intercourse, vaguely feel a little pain. Is this normal?
According to the survey, more than 50% of mothers have discomfort during sexual intercourse within 2-3 months after delivery, possibly because of unsatisfactory vaginal recovery, possibly because of vaginal dryness.
How to solve this problem?
If vaginal recovery is not good, sexual intercourse must be suspended until the body is fully restored and try again. (How can we know if the body is fully restored? My feelings are not necessarily reliable, it is better to have a postpartum examination.)
If the vagina is dry, it can be caressed and other ways, so that both sides are in a state of re-attempt. Of course, you can also use lubricants to solve this problem (don’t be too conservative, unlock new supplies when necessary).
5. What about “cold sex” after delivery?
Some people say that the husband should be blamed for the “lack of sexual interest” after childbirth. Don’t think it’s a myth. Look at the following analysis. Maybe you can see why!
Often, postpartum mothers are sexually apathetic, mostly due to the following two factors:
How busy!
Lack of physical strength and dog accumulation are absolutely the reasons for 80% of mothers’apathy.
We should know that food and clothing, sleep and sex are the basic physiological needs of human beings. Do you still think about sex when you can’t sleep enough?
Besides, it’s a manual work. If you have to take care of your baby 24 hours a day, but also take on heavy housework, in this case, who can do that effectively?
If you want to change this situation, your husband should take the initiative to help take care of the baby and share the housework. Mother’s spirit is full, when it’s time to “turn the cards”, naturally she will not back down.
I’m afraid to see my husband’s disgusted eyes.
There are absolutely a few mothers who do not have gestational stretch marks, have no abnormal figure and have no breast sagging after delivery.
Many mothers worry that when their husbands see that they are no longer as beautiful as before, they can’t help covering up when they have sex. It’s hard to let go of them and they can’t get into the state, so they inevitably appear “cold sex”.
In order to solve this problem, besides the mother herself trying to recover and keep in good condition, she also needs her husband’s comfort and understanding, more encouragement and telling her, “Your body has changed just because of the birth of a baby, which is a great thing, and I don’t feel ugly.” (Focus on Wechat Subscription Number: Mother and Child Time, Talk about Parent and Child Raising)
If a man can’t even do this, or even “splash cold water”, then he can’t blame the other half for being apathetic. You know, the door to sexual desire can be opened by language. It’s no wonder that the wife’s “sexual interest” will drop to freezing point.
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