Some mothers struggle with one thing after giving birth: will they return to work after maternity leave, or will they simply resign and take care of their children full-time at home?
Go back to work and feel that the first few years are when babies need their mothers the most. Once missed, there is no chance to make up for it.
Resignation to take care of your child. I am also worried that the lack of a financial source at home will increase the pressure of living, and I am also afraid that I will have to reach out for money and my status will decrease. I am even more afraid that if I only take care of my children, I will become a yellow faced woman who is disconnected from the world.
For these concerns and entanglements, I think mentioning these aspects below may help you make a choice.
Those who meet the following conditions are suitable for becoming full-time mothers
Family support, especially husband
The most important thing is to have the support of family members in order to have no worries and take care of the baby wholeheartedly.
Raising a baby has always been a family matter, and if you plan to become a full-time mother, you need to communicate clearly with your family.
1. If you don’t work, do the financial conditions at home allow for it
2. Clarify the family’s views on full-time mothers and ensure that they do not believe that not working and taking care of the baby at home is laziness and lack of pursuit
Career is not in the sprint stage
In fact, to put it another way is: before taking maternity leave, if you are no longer attached or have no signs of promotion, you can change jobs or careers at any time.
If that’s the case, being a full-time mother at home for a few years will not have much impact on you now or in the future. You can wait for your baby to grow up and feel more at ease before considering starting a new job.
Do not reject household chores and be patient
A full-time mother is very tired… definitely not much easier than going to work… multiple roles have to be switched between, such as nanny, chef, nurse, and hourly worker. Moreover, babies are not the easy masters, so when faced with these trivial matters and a little baby who doesn’t understand too much, not only must they be patient but also diligent. So if you don’t love doing household chores or even don’t bother to do meals, then being a full-time mom is likely to be an extremely irritable or even depressed job for you.
Before resigning, ask yourself these three things
Do you really want to be a full-time mom?
Each woman’s personality is different, some are suitable for helping her husband and children at home, while others are suitable for working hard in the workplace.
Therefore, I feel that before becoming a full-time mother, I need to ask myself clearly and not make this decision under the pressure of others.
Will one’s position at home decrease without income?
For most mothers, having no job means having no source of income. Even if they have a small amount of savings, they will spend it one day. When they reach out to ask their family for money, will they have different opinions? Also, would you be very sensitive to this matter yourself?
Anyway, straighten out your mindset and let your family understand that being a full-time mom at home is not a blessing in disguise, and it’s not as easy as going to work.
Would you be too lazy to improve yourself due to full-time parenting?
Children will eventually grow up, and sooner or later you don’t need to be a full-time mother.
Therefore, do not stagnate your own development, narrow your horizons, and become disconnected from the outside world. Learn to develop several hobbies and gain a sense of achievement and value from them.
Normally, if the economy permits, mothers are willing to spend a few years as full-time mothers to accompany their children before returning to the workplace. But many practical problems are also ahead of us, so both full-time and working mothers hope that their babies can grow happily under your education.