It is said that the first year after giving birth to a child is a barrier in the relationship between husband and wife. Many marriages are greatly tested at this time: the relationship mode between two people is broken, and life is facing more contradictions, frictions and pressures. Among them, the most obvious change is the conversation mode between husband and wife, which is less sweet and more cold. Some couples even often quarrel over taking care of their children and never speak kindly. Some people think that this is the reality and necessity of marriage. In fact, it is not. On the contrary, it is a signal of marriage crisis.

Researchers from the University of Southern California and the University of Utah recorded conversations between 100 couples during marriage therapy for two years and followed their marital status for five years. The researchers also developed a computer program that can decompose the acoustic characteristics of these recordings, such as pitch, intensity and the frequency of the speaker’s FM. The results show that there is a link between speech tone and marital quality. Even if the husband and wife did not say anything that particularly hurt each other, the tone of ridicule and contempt revealed in the dialogue was a fatal blow to the relationship between husband and wife.

Especially after having children, husband and wife often feel inseparable from each other. They don’t need to pay attention to the tone. They only leave the tenderness of words to their children, but don’t control their speech. And when you can no longer chat happily with each other, your marriage is in jeopardy.

If you want to consider the change of your partner’s attitude after childbirth, why should you change your attitude towards your partner?


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